Feminine & Masculine and how wild can it get?
We spent weeks with an extraordinary group of people, flying high, diving deep and opening power, embodying Feminine & Masculine Principles in graceful decisions.
Kicking this off
Teresa said:
“Let’s do a course on how to activate feminine and masculine polarities.”
Simon said:
“YES. I’m in!”
So we did just that. For the first time ever teaming up to create something we felt relevant, timely and worthy. We knew our stuff, had created a rough outline and intention 2 months ago, on a memorable train ride from Florence and Venice, so once we were up to implementing this, we received a clear answer1 in regards to timing: in 10 days. We set up our online course tool, created a landing page, reached out to folks and kicked this off in a whirlwind. We knew we could rely upon decades of live presenting, and, fortunately, there was no time for doubts.
And then we all, Teresa, Simon and the course participants quickly realised: This is a deep dive. The Feminine & Masculine Principles are not only valuable, they are mighty - very much speaking to our current conditions and calling us to step into full responsibility, into our full power.
The glory of Frame & Flow
The deep dive started by exploring the four Feminine & Masculine Principles then stretching into three depths and finishing by multiplying this across five growth patterns. That expansiveness truly emerged during the four weeks we shared on the course.
The final session held all these principles, depths and patterns as an integrated, embodied practice. What was so complex to mentally behold became fully incorporated felt sense. Ah, the glory of it!
In the concluding session and after the unifying embodiment Teresa outlined some of this glory:
“What we did here is collect all our resources: the four principles along the three depths, across five patterns, in our own very individual perspective, in this cosmic address.
We've built up, through the four sessions, a lot of complex information. Making sure that we start to feel this in our systems, in our bodies, so as to be of service to ourselves and to the world.”
Simple complexity
All these frames are dynamic. This article shares a taste of it, what it feels like to embrace our emotional Warm Chaos, hold it with the dignity of Silent Wisdom in a Full Embrace, all at our fullest depths and with highest frequency patterns, and then, only then apply our Sheer Skill2 as the focus of light.
This is call to hold ourselves gently, more fully and completely, and to be easy on ourselves as we grow.
Teresa: “Mercy is such a big thing. Let's mercy ourselves and others if we can't do it yet, do it all yet. There will be things that are easy. Return to the practices, whatever resonates, whatever you want to grow every day, put this into your contemplations, into the routines, the meditations, into stepping into the different perspectives and the embodiment of these frameworks. Let’s honour our life's work here with this.”
Simon: “David Deida makes the point that nobody can do the deepest depth, level C, all of the time. Everybody drops out of it. So honour yourself and be gentle on yourself. What we are doing here, for everyone present and watching later, is walking together and helping each other. If you want to reach out and join us, in whichever way, please do so.”3
Embodiment Practice:
insights & unexpected shifts
So what does it feel like to fully step into the blustery, choppy and enlivening realities that are all around us? No matter if we think big crisis or any small or large personal challenge: read on for what this has to do with Feminine & Masculine Principles following the words of some of the participants4.
Starting with Warm Chaos, the Creative Feminine. We very much tend to under-privilege that life-force, the very font of feminine power:
Katharina: “I realised I just have to open up, get all of these emotions, perspectives and spectrums felt. I started to write down everything, so many colours continuously creating more and more room for myself. “
There is a natural flow moving on from Warm Chaos, that we experienced in our embodiment practice:
Jeanny: “What was very good for me is the order of the steps. Because often, when things get tough, I try to jump to the last resource—I try to figure it out by Sheer Skill. I often have the feeling that there is not enough time to go through all the feelings, beginning with the Warm Chaos of emotions inside myself.”
And this is what happens if we do:
Christiane: “I was holding a kind of expectation of what would happen in Sheer Skill and getting myself ready for it. While stepping into it what happened was such a surprise because the first thing that came up was dance, dance from one thing to the next. My whole body started dancing. I'm like, huh… then it became a lot clearer. What came up was the dance, was moving in joyful abundance and I’m being aware of this.
Then the message came: I've got everything I need and that felt very clear. Then, when it came to look at my plan, my whole system cried out “no plan!!”. It's about holding the uncertainty, the skill of that.”
Consequently, we are framing ourselves and thereby, enable our flow. We are fully capable and responsible for our flow state, without added “outside” conditions:
Mike: “Well, I just like the framing right at the very beginning about moving into the light and recognising, literally knowing, that it is a game. When I can be in that it's for the good of all and I become less significant. I really enjoy taking all the different perspectives and in each step of it, it became more and more relaxed, trusting so that if my intention is to now create a plan that would just flow right out. Those decisions that seem difficult become less significant. They become joyful. It does become a dance, I’m there with you Christiane.”
These plans, the decisions dropping out, are emergent:
Aimee: “It is like a clear light and then there might be a bit of questioning of it, and doubt, and then there'd be a really strong false sense and sometimes then I'd be like, Oh, I don't like that answer. I'm getting to sit with that, seeing that vulnerability and my wanting to change life. Then a piece came: just rest. That just came straight up.”
The gifts
Both of us, Teresa and Simon, joined in, stepping into the embodiment practices while hosting and holding them, as we like to do. And so we all reached completion, with a fireworks of insight, empowerment and collective meaning:
Teresa: “I've been gifted a sentence yesterday fitting the whole Frame & Flow place in my life and my work. Tom Murray5 said to me, “I've always been more interested in truth than in pleasure. This might be the issue.” And I was like, thank you for telling me this now and not in 10 years time!
I've been loving a book called Pleasure Activism by Adrianne Maree Brown. It's one of the most beautiful feminine writings in consciousness, written from the body. It's quite dirty and it's really far out there, as you would say Simon, in Australian . And it's a beautiful book that has been with me for two years already on how to feel good while we are doing our work.
When Tom said that to me yesterday, I thought, wow, let's root for pleasure. Let's be more juicy with our work and our serving and our everything.
I find this whole place of Feminine & Masculine Principles like a key to this, because if we dare to step into that polarity, stuff comes up, it does get juicy. And the question is, are we scared of this or can we do that? Or is the boundaries or is the sacredness? I just so enjoy this work and so enjoy the research in this and the conversations that it offers. And suddenly there's all these people who are actually kind of doing something related or wanting to go into that more. And it feels like there's a major shift in people who, who are interested in consciousness that's put it like very wide, well very wide in our small bubble anyways, but as big as possible. And and all of them are interested in having more fun with this.
And this is where I want this to go. I want to have more fun with this. I want to have more sensations, more awareness of what am I feeling and where is this going and what is in the space with everybody else and how is this perspective and that. And David Deida always says you can never understand a woman as a man, but if you lose interest you're not excited by it anymore. Just don't try to understand it. Just be with it. And I kinda like the fascination of that. For me, it's fascinating to surround myself with men who experience this in depth and I'm in leadership in anything and I'm like, wow, I've no idea how it feels, but it's curious and you can see me getting excited here! I think there's so much fun in that and so much enjoyment and so much still understanding as not in really being able to to embody that with a different kind of body. But there's bridges and there is meta overarching things where we can come together and do this dance and then the not knowing is the juicy part. I love it. Yeah. Thank you for being with us in this, birthing of this endeavour here and witnessing this and sharing this and being with us here as much as everybody could on such short notice.”
Simon: “Totally. Thank you Teresa, this is so resonating with me as well. It’s landing powerfully as what we need today, reclaiming our selves in our fullest, myself in my fullest. That is superbly empowering, a little taste of it is in what we’ve all felt as we were embracing being the focus of light and connecting beyond that fullness, unfolding into emergence, curating this space.
This is coming home and I mean that in both a physical sense as well as more. I’ve found my home, I did that powerfully in the embodiment too as I realised it was with me, literally as a felt sense. Participating in this course while hosting it is a very resonate space, we’re helping people to find home, in ourselves and around us, in both purpose and love.
Many people have heard me say this before and my context is unexpectedly shifting to Europe from North America and Australia.6 I professionally knew one person on this continent when I arrived here, yet I stepped into a huge shift of energy that very much relates to choosing pleasure.
The shift of energy is from working with these consciousness patterns from a ‘oh this is really important’, ‘we've gotta get these principles over the line’, ‘help hold people's hands’ perspective. That shifts with these active polarities, animated with and by Feminine & Masculine essentials, and moves into joyous action. It becomes enlivening with a ‘let's get on with it right now.’ A it's vital, it's passionate, nourishing and powerful.
This is a step from truth into pleasure, lushness in the totally delightful creative fabric that is happening here.
And for myself it's wonderfully liberating. Today is a big shift for me from being somewhat stuck by my enforced intercontinental dislocation. Tonight I just had my soul with me, the feeling of coming home and experiencing those connections in everyone, their joy in what’s unfolding for us all. I am incredibly grateful for the generosity of everybody participating in this course.”
Both of us, Teresa and Simon, are. You have let us all play with potentials and possibilities that are coming up for everyone as we are all stepping into these structures of framing flow.
It has been, and continues to be, a deep, bounteous and beautiful space. And it’s all there for us to explore.
We used floor anchoring, an embodiment method, which allows you to literally “step into” possible answers to any question, to feel which resonates most with your body intelligence. If you want to know more, ask teresa@whatelseistrue.com any time.
See the course description here> for more on the four Feminine & Masculine Principles of Warm Chaos, Silent Wisdom, Full Embrace and Sheer Skill.
Participants quoted here, with permission, are Katharina Telefont, Jeanny Gucher, Mike Degruyter, Christiane Seuhs-Schoeller and Aimee Hartshorn.
Backstory on Simon’s substack, The Rascal, the Mongrel and the Mutant, here>